To love and be loved

to love and be loved

 

Make yourself a blessing to someone. Your kind smile or pat on the back just might pull someone back from the edge.
~ Carmelia Elliott

 

Someone will be helped today by our kindness. Compassionate attention assures others that they do matter, and every one of us needs that reassurance occasionally. Offering words of encouragement to others, or a willing ear, can be unexpected gifts. They will be deeply appreciated. The real gift, though, is to ourselves. Our own spirituality, and thus assurance about our own being, is strengthened each time we do what our hearts direct.

 

We are healed in our healing of others. God speaks to us through our words to others. Our own well-being is enhanced each time we put someone else’s well-being first.

 

Source (modified): Each Day a New Beginning | Anniversary Edition | Hazelden Meditations

 

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A pebble in a pond

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A pebble dropped into a pond reverberates in ways that are hundreds of times bigger than the pebble itself.  From the point of entry into the water, ripples emerge, and extend outwards.  Fish dart in the direction of the sinking pebble in the hope of obtaining a bit of food.  A duck feels a small disturbance and turns.  And when the pebble lands on the pond’s floor, it displaces tiny grains of sand as it settles in.

 

All this happens, just from one tiny pebble.

 

The slogan “Keep it simple” reminds you to avoid complications and overanalysis so you can stay focused on the present moment.  But, it also reminds you of the importance of performing simple acts of kindness for others.  Things you might not even think about because they are so small may turn a person’s day for the better.  When you allow someone to go through a door before you, offer to pour a cup of coffee for another, or smile at a stranger, you are not saving hundreds of lives, but perhaps, like the pebble in the pond, your simple actions will have profound and positive repercussions in the life of another.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light: A Book of Meditations to Begin Your Day | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations

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Give a stranger one of your smiles today.  It might be the only sunshine he or she sees all day.

~ Author Unknown

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Cross Colours

Brain Game:  The object of the game is to convert all of the squares from red to green. The difficulty lies in the fact that more than one square changes colour. Not only does the clicked square change colour, but the ones above, below, left and right also change.  Click the box or the link at the bottom to play the game:

 

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Who are you?

happiness and harmony

 

 

If someone were to ask you, “Who are you, without your job title?” or “What do you  know about yourself?” or “What are the qualities that make up who you are?” such questions might be difficult to answer.   What is within you is what may have been long suppressed.  What is within you is what you need to discover, or rediscover, in working through creating a life of meaning.

 

You may not realize that you are filled with ideas and creativity.  You have a depth of feelings.  You are a storehouse of memories.  You have talents.  You have experience.  You are so much more than you could ever imagine.  You have wisdom that goes beyond textbooks and degrees as well as strengths that have yet to be discovered.

 

To grow wiser means to know better who you are.  When you immerse yourself in a searching and fearless moral inventory, you will discover things about yourself that you had not realized or have long suppressed.  You will discover truths that you have long covered up with lies.  And you will experience greater understanding about yourself in ways you never have before.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light: A Book of Meditations to Begin Your Day | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations
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Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

~ Mahatma Gandhi

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Eager beavers

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Beavers are often considered perfect engineers.  The dams they create out of sticks and branches, green vegetation, and mud can still raging rivers and create a unique underwater living environment.  They are dedicated workers that immediately take action when humans or natural elements conspire to destroy their dams.  Even dams that have been broken down repeatedly are rebuilt.

 

Even beavers are not perfect, as their dams do break.  It might be better to think of them as tireless in their quest to create optimal survival conditions.  Their dams are not works of beauty, nor is there one perfect dam-building pattern.  But each dam is purposeful and functional.

 

Similarly, how you approach your life determines the level of your success.  If you strive to do everything perfectly, chances are little or nothing you can accomplish will result in the perfect outcome you desire.  But, if you work tirelessly at your life, to build and rebuild whenever necessary, and to create the best possible life for yourself, then you will accomplish much.  Success is measured by your dedication to see your work through to completion, even if completion comes after several tries.

 

Source (modified): Morning Light: A Book of Meditations to Begin Your Day | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations
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Faith is like the wind

without faith

 

Have you ever seen the wind?  You can see a kite flying up above, a sailboat navigating waters with air-filled sails, birds dipping and turning as they navigate wind currents, or leaves shivering on trees.  Such things let you know the wind exists.

 

Faith is like the wind; it is something you feel but cannot see.  Faith is not comprised of logic and reason, but a trust in something greater than yourself.  Faith exists when you can see the beauty of life all around you — in budding flowers, a cloudless sky, a majestic ocean.  It provides you with the strength to face a challenge you feel is insurmountable, and yet you conquer it.  It is there when you feel that daylight will never come, and dawn breaks.

 

Faith is the belief that most things are possible.  It gives you strength to steer the strong winds of change and allows you to find comfort in the calming breeze of God’s presence.  Faith is trust that good will triumph over evil, that your sins can be forgiven, that your wrongdoings can be righted, and that the storms of your life can be navigated.

 

Source:  Morning Light: A Book of Meditations to Begin Your Day | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations
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Prayer versus Meditation

Prayer and meditation are used together so often that you may think they are essentially the same thing.  But, prayer is more of a direct outreach and communication with a divine being, while meditation encourages you to “go within” to create stillness and serenity.

 

There is no right or wrong way to meditate.  Those who exercise — especially long-distance runners — often think of their workout as a form of meditation.  Others make a ritual out of their meditation by setting aside the same time each day, listening to soothing music, or chanting.  Some use deep breathing techniques or yoga poses.  Others listen to guided meditation tapes or meditate regularly with others.

 

But, no matter what form your meditation takes, the purpose is to allow time for relaxation and for letting go so you can let your thoughts and emotions run free.  You feel and observe what is within you and, in so doing, learn more about your innermost thoughts and feelings.  When you do, you can better understand your fears, doubts, insecurities, regrets, and resentments.  With this understanding, you can use these tools to decrease the hold these emotions have upon you.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light: A Book of Meditations to Begin Your Day | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations
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A reed in the wind

Plants flourish in a garden that receives the right amount of sunlight and water, as well as a well-balanced soil.  Manure and compost can be excellent fertilizers, although it is ironic that something so repellent is vital to sustaining life.  The same holds true with misfortunes, failures, and disappointments.  such things are as  beneficial to you as manure and compost are to a garden.  They facilitate the growth of positive things.  Fortune can arise out of misfortune, success can rise up from failure, and fulfillment can be more fully appreciated through the experience provided by disappointment.

 

In Chinese language, the symbol for the word “crisis” denotes a duality:  “a moment of danger and of opportunity.”  This symbol conveys that every crisis can be viewed as both an enemy — a threat to our vital resources — and an ally — an experience that challenges you to make change.

 

Whenever you feel intimidated by any of life’s crises, accept the challenge.  Greet it like a reed in the wind.  Bend through the adversity until it has passed.  Then stand upright once again, a stronger person for the experience.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light: A Book of Meditations to Begin Your Day | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations
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The slippery slope

The aging process has been described as a “slippery slope,” “all downhill from here,” and “the beginning of the end.”  But such phrases are not necessarily negative.  Imagine that the slippery slope represents an ascent rather than a descent.  Climbing to the top of a vista enables a much clearer view.  So perhaps aging can be seen as a time to rise up and see all that is around you.

 

“It’s all downhill from here” can represent a time of smooth sailing — one that is free from the anxiety, inexperience, and confusion of youth, when you experience life with less angst and greater gusto.  “It’s the beginning of the end” can offer a time for new opportunities and challenges.  As one decade of your life draws to a close, a new decade opens up before you.

 

There are those who, as they age, seem to fade away and others who seem to have more spring in their step and a brighter twinkle in their eyes.  You are, as another phrase conveys, “Only as old — or as young — as you feel.”

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light: A Book of Meditations to Begin Your Day | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations
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Relationship Resolutions

Resolutions aren’t just for New Years anymore. Think about your relationship and what you’d like to accomplish or change or improve on. You can set some resolutions on your own, as well as with your partner. Telling a friend about them will help you stay on track. Here are some examples of relationship resolutions that you might want to make:

 

·        Appreciate each other more. It’s so easy to fall into the routine of day-to-day life together and start taking each other for granted. Set a resolution to take time to appreciate each other more. Make a concrete plan and it will be easier to stick to and measure. For example, you might take time each day to tell each other one thing that you appreciate about the other person. You’ll have to remind yourself to do it at first, but then it will become a habit that you both look forward to. It forces you to take a step back from busy lives and makes you focus on each other.

 

·        Spend more quality time together. You and your partner probably see each other lots but is it real, quality time? We are often so busy rushing around, running errands, studying, and hanging out in groups that time can quickly go by without you and your partner spending any quality time together. Make a resolution to spend one night a week just the two of you, without distraction. Pick something that’s fun and simply enjoy each other’s company.

 

·        Talk about problems right away. Small annoyances can grow into big fights and resentments if you keep them to yourself and let them brew. Make a resolution to voice any problems or concerns to your partner right away and deal with them. The second step of this resolution is to move on afterwards without holding a grudge.

 

·        Be more romantic. You probably made lots of time for romance when you first started dating, but it’s easy to get comfortable and let it slide when you get more familiar with each other. Make a resolution to do one romantic thing each week for your partner. Anything from surprising them with flowers, to sending them a thoughtful text. Your partner will be thrilled with the attention and will hopefully reciprocate!

 

·        Try new things. Don’t get caught in a relationship rut where you always do the same things together, go to the same restaurants and spend time with the same group of people. Make a resolution as a couple to try something new every week. It could be a new restaurant, a new sport or activity that you’ve never tried, or anything else that’s a new experience for both of you to enjoy together.

 

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Social Biases

Actor-observer bias — the tendency for explanations for other individual’s behaviors to overemphasize the influence of their personality and underemphasize the influence of their situation. This is coupled with the opposite tendency for the self in that one’s explanations for their own behaviors overemphasize their situation and underemphasize the influence of their personality. (see also fundamental attribution error).

 

Dunning-Kruger effect — “…when people are incompetent in the strategies they adopt to achieve success and satisfaction, they suffer a dual burden: Not only do they reach erroneous conclusions and make unfortunate choices, but their incompetence robs them of the ability to realize it. Instead, …they are left with the mistaken impression that they are doing just fine.”[5] (See also the Lake Wobegon effect, and overconfidence effect).

 

Egocentric bias — occurs when people claim more responsibility for themselves for the results of a joint action than an outside observer would.

 

Forer effect (aka Barnum Effect) — the tendency to give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically for them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people. For example, horoscopes.

 

False consensus effect — the tendency for people to overestimate the degree to which others agree with them.

 

Fundamental attribution error — the tendency for people to over-emphasize personality-based explanations for behaviors observed in others while under-emphasizing the role and power of situational influences on the same behavior (see also actor-observer bias, group attribution error, positivity effect, and negativity effect).

 

Halo effect — the tendency for a person’s positive or negative traits to “spill over” from one area of their personality to another in others’ perceptions of them (see also physical attractiveness stereotype).

 

Herd instinct – a common tendency to adopt the opinions and follow the behaviors of the majority to feel safer and to avoid conflict.

 

Illusion of asymmetric insight — people perceive their knowledge of their peers to surpass their peers’ knowledge of them.

 

Illusion of transparency — people overestimate others’ ability to know them, and they also overestimate their ability to know others.

 

Ingroup bias — the tendency for people to give preferential treatment to others they perceive to be members of their own groups.

 

Just-world phenomenon — the tendency for people to believe that the world is “just” and therefore people “get what they deserve.”

 

Lake Wobegon effect — the human tendency to report flattering beliefs about oneself and believe that one is above average (see also worse-than-average effect, and overconfidence effect).

 

Notational bias — a form of cultural bias in which a notation induces the appearance of a nonexistent natural law.

 

Outgroup homogeneity bias — individuals see members of their own group as being relatively more varied than members of other groups.

 

Projection bias — the tendency to unconsciously assume that others share the same or similar thoughts, beliefs, values, or positions.

 

Self-serving bias — the tendency to claim more responsibility for successes than failures. It may also manifest itself as a tendency for people to evaluate ambiguous information in a way beneficial to their interests (see also group-serving bias).

 

Self-fulfilling prophecy — the tendency to engage in behaviors that elicit results which will (consciously or subconsciously) confirm our beliefs.

 

System justification — the tendency to defend and bolster the status quo, i.e. existing social, economic, and political arrangements tend to be preferred, and alternatives disparaged sometimes even at the expense of individual and collective self-interest.

 

Trait ascription bias — the tendency for people to view themselves as relatively variable in terms of personality, behavior and mood while viewing others as much more predictable.

 

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Word Game | “SUPPORT”

Brain Game:  In this teaser, you are to start with the letter ‘U’, and then each time add a letter and shuffle it to make a new word. You need to continue this process until you reach the word ‘SUPPORT’.

Not including ‘U’, you must do this in six (6) turns.

Good luck.

U
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S U P P O R T

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How to Cope with Blah Days

1. Recognise that it’s a feeling – and our moods go up and down.  Shrug your shoulders, grit your teeth and choose to make it through the day. Nothing’s really wrong – and there is nothing wrong with you. It’s just the way you’re feeling – and our feelings usually change.

 

2. Don’t be hard and condemn yourself.  Don’t beat yourself up for feeling miserable and blah, or for feeling apathetic and low on energy. Be patient, understanding and gentle with yourself. You’re no worse than others as we ALL have blah days

 

3. Do something rather that nothing.  Do a few mindless tasks so you don’t just waste the day – and you’re likely to feel better once those you’ve got those out the way as they’re usually the things that you never want to do!

 

4. Only do as much as you have to. It’s going to take all your strength just to make it through the day. Preserve your energy – and allow some things to slide. You can always get round to them another day.

 

5. Be extra nice to yourself.  One of the best ways to fight a bleary day is to be nice to yourself and to do the kinds of things that help to lift your mood and to brighten up your day. For example, go out for a coffee, or have a bubble bath, turn up your favourite music or call a bunch of friends.  Do all the kinds of things you know will help to boost your mood.

 

6. Remind yourself that it’s likely to pass.  A bad day is just a day. It’s not the whole of your life. It just means that right now you want to crawl back into bed. It doesn’t mean your goals are wrong or that you won’t succeed in life! You’re just having a bad day – and it’s likely to pass.

 

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Meet Kyra

kyra collage

 

Hi, everyone, I’m back!  I’ll be gearing up Curiosities again in the coming weeks, probably with only a couple of posts each day from now on.  I’ve been preoccupied for the last month and a half because we’ve brought a new puppy into our family and I’ve been devoting all my extra time to her.

 

Meet Kyra!  Kyra is a Samoyed, a gentle, huggable teddy bear full of fluff who will grow to be approximately 50 pounds, 23 inches tall at the shoulder.  Samoyeds, or “Smiling Sammies,” were originally bred to be companion dogs in Siberia and were known to be wonderful with children.

 

I hope all of you have been doing well.  I have disabled Comments on posts, due to the amount of spam I receive as comments, but I’ll be looking forward to emails from genuine followers in the future.  Thanks for sticking with me while I was gone!  :)

 

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There is always a way

there is always a way

 

Something to think about…

 

When you journey up a mountain path, you see many types of tree growth.  In the lower part of the mountain are small saplings just starting their growth, as well as towering trees.  Higher up, trees are smaller.  Some cling precariously to the side of the mountain, growing out of a small patch of earth between cracks in a rock.

 

Journey up the same path after a spring snowmelt and you may see a different view.  In the lower regions, once towering trees have been felled by the power of raging water, and small saplings have been snapped at their base.  But up higher, small trees are still firmly in place, steadfast in their grip between the rocks.

 

The lesson in this is that the strongest can survive.  Like the trees, you are ever-exposed to the storms and difficulties of daily life.  Will you be overwhelmed by life’s adversities, easily felled by such things, or will you develop an inner strength and resiliency that will enable you to work through each difficulty?

 

Today recognize that challenges in life are inevitable.  Brace yourself for them, hold firm to your position, and never let them dislodge you.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations

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So, what’s new with you?

diary of a fish

 

Cartoonist Leigh Rubin conveys a humorous look at boredom in his comic drawing of a goldfish in a bowl, entitled “Diary of a Fish.”  The diary runs from Sunday through Saturday and conveys the same entries about how the fish spent its day:  It swam.  It ate.  It slept.

 

Now, you may view your existence as one of dull routines, causing you to feel bored and disinterested in life.  When someone asks, “So, what’s new with you?” you may let out a sigh and mumble, “Same old, same old.”  But, your days can be transformed and refashioned to add freshness and richness to your life.  Being spontaneous can open you up to new experiences.  Taking a risk can offer learning and challenge.  Doing something out of the ordinary can provide an opportunity to grow.  Embracing unpredictability can strengthen your ability to flow with life’s challenges.

 

If you feel there is nothing special going on in your life, do something different from what you did yesterday.  Even simple changes can provide enough stimulation to make life more interesting and enjoyable.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations

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Is It Better To Follow Your Head Or Your Heart?

If your head tells you one thing and your heart says another, which is the one you should listen to? When it comes to relationships, both play an important role. Here’s when you should listen to your head or your heart when it comes to love:

 

Follow Your Head

 

·        When you’re thinking of cheating. If you have a wandering eye and are considering acting on it, put your emotions on hold and think about what you’re about to do. Cheating can have serious consequences in your relationship so think long and hard about what you might be risking. Don’t let your attraction or emotions rule your actions.

 

·        When you’re attracted to someone off-limits. Maybe you’re attracted to your best friend’s ex or someone else that you know you shouldn’t pursue. Don’t let your emotions cloud your judgment when it means that you’re risking your friendship or another important relationship. Think about what acting on your attraction would mean for your friendship instead of acting impulsively and following your heart.

 

·        When they treat you badly. Don’t listen to your emotions when you’re in a bad relationship. Your emotional side will make excuses for their bad behavior and get sentimental about their good qualities. Instead, you need to use your head and look at the cold hard facts if they treat you badly, it doesn’t matter how many good times you’ve had together.

 

·        When you’re thinking about getting physical. Leave your emotions (and libido) out of the equation when you’re contemplating taking your relationship to a more physical and intimate level. Think clearly about why you’re doing it and make sure you’re not being pressured. Weigh the consequences of what potential ways your relationship will be affected and definitely use your head to consider health and birth control options.

 

Heart

 

·        When deciding who to be with. Forget what your head is telling you about whether or not someone is your usual type, or if your friends will approve. You can’t help whom you’re attracted to and if there’s someone that you just really want to be with, listen to your heart and go for it. Don’t worry about what your head or anyone else has to say about it.

 

·        When committing. If your heart tells you that you’ve struck relationship gold and you simply just want to be together, listen to your heart when deciding if you want to commit to someone. Don’t start weighing the pros and cons in your head and thinking about all of the reasons why you should keep your options open. If you’re really into someone and they feel the same, follow your heart and commit to them.

 

·        When it comes to long distance. There are a million reasons not to try a long distance relationship and it’s easy to talk yourself out of it. But sometimes it’s just the right person and you want to be together and make it work, no matter the distance. Listen to your heart to determine if they’re the one and you are willing to stay together even with a bit of distance between you.

 

·        When saying “I Love You”. Don’t let your head rule this one because it will surely talk you out of it. Expressing your love to someone is purely emotional. If you think about it too much you’ll likely be scared off by the risks. Take the leap and follow your heart if you want to reap the rewards of telling your partner that you love them.

 

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Grill Roasted Corn Salad | The Healthy Foodie.

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Russian Travels the World With His Own Private Moon

 

What may look like a series of unearthly photo-manipulations, is more real than it looks! Moscow-based physician Leonid Tishkov is actually traveling the world with his own personal moon. The artist created the moon 10 years ago for a contemporary art performance, after which he took it back to his apartment and eventually started traveling around the world.

 

“I have traveled Private Moon for ten years and each time the moon reveals more space to me. The moon is a shining point that brings people together from different countries, of different nationalities and cultures” – says Leonid.

 

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The outcome of purposeful living

purposeful living

 

Something to think about…

 

Think about all of the components that go into creating a glowing campfire.  There is the pit that must be dug in order to contain the fire.  There are the sticks of varying sizes that must be gathered together and organized in the pit.  And then there is the spark from a match that is needed to ignite the sticks.  From this creation of a campfire are many by-products: something that cooks food, something that warms the body, something that produces an exquisite aroma, and something that provides light in the darkness.

 

Happiness an be seen in much the same way.  It is a by-product of all of the positive and enjoyable things you gather together each day.  It is the effort you exert into seeking the treasures of life.  And it is the spark you add to your day-to-day existence.

 

Happiness is an outcome of the effort you put into life.  It exists in the harmonious relationships you create, in the sense of purpose that awakens you in the morning, and in the feeling of connection to all of life.

 

Remember that happiness is not something to strive for; rather, it is something you create.  It is the outcome of purposeful living.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations

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Count Your Blessings

count your blessings

 

A well-known speaker started off his seminar holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?” Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.”

 

He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, “Who still wants it…?” Still the hands were up in the air. “Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?” Still the hands went into the air.

 

“My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We may feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

 

Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE.

 

You are special-Don’t EVER forget it.” If you do not pass this on, you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope that it may bring. Count your blessings, not your problems.

 

via FB: Stacey Mae

 

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A little spark of kindness

A little spark of kindness can put a colossal burst of sunshine into someone’s day.

~ Author Unknown

 

a little spark of kindness

 

 

Something to think about…

 

“One receives only that which is given.  The game of life is a game of boomerangs.  Our thoughts, deeds, and words, return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy.”

~ Florence Scovel Shin

 

Each of us can attest to the truth of this passage.  During the difficult times, however, it is not uppermost in our minds that “what goes around, comes around.”  It feels all too easy to be justifiably resentful or to gossip or to ignore another’s presence.  And the repercussions are seldom immediate.  They will come, though.

 

Goodness is likewise repaid.  Giving love, attention, and respect to the individuals who share our lives and to the people who cross our paths by chance will smooth our own passage day by day.  The effects of our goodness will often be felt quickly.  A smile elicits a smile.  Kind thoughts bless us as well as the receiver.  Life events do come full circle.

 

With a bit of effort, I can smile at someone today, even though I’m frowning inside.  Both will be better for it.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Grandmother says “Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee, which are you?”

carrots eggs or coffee

 

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

 

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

 

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”

 

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

 

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

 

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

 

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. “What’s the point, grandmother?”

 

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently.

 

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

 

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

 

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter.

 

“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

 

Think of this: Which am I?

 

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

 

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

 

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

 

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

 

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

 

~ Author Unknown

 

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Today flows from yesterday

The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.

~ Steve Mariboli

 

 

yesterday and today

 

Something to think about…

 

Today flows from yesterday, the day before, the day before that.  Tomorrow repeats the pattern.  What we are given on any one day will have its beginning in the past and its finale in the future.  No incident is isolated entirely; no issue is self-contained.

 

Maturity is being able to let go of outgrown attitudes, stifling opinions, no matter how good and right they were at one time.  Our egos often get too attached to some of our opinions, and new ideas can’t filter in.  Some will try to get our attention today.  We are ready for new growth.  The choice not to hamper it is ours to make.

 

The opinions we held certain yesterday may not be adequate to the problems of today.  They need not be.  They served us well.  They are not for naught.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Unique gifts and talents

The unique gifts and talents each of us contribute to the world add dimension and color to the rich tapestry we call life.

~ Janet S. Dickens

 

gifts and talents

 

All of us have unique talents and gifts.  Believing this fully is difficult at times; for some of us, most of the time.  But it is true.  What each of us can contribute to the world is unlike every other contribution.  Each talent is slightly different from every other talent.  And they are all needed.  We are all needed.

 

Creativity — any kind — writing, photography, cooking, child care, weaving, managing, woodworking — nourishes the self that feels isolated and worthless.  And as the self is nourished, it grows; it recovers.

 

Recovery means changing our lifestyle.  It means reaching out to others and being there for one another.  It means rejoining the human race by giving of ourselves.  Our talents are the gifts the human race awaits — needs, in fact.  Do we know our talents?

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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