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There is always a way

there is always a way

 

Something to think about…

 

When you journey up a mountain path, you see many types of tree growth.  In the lower part of the mountain are small saplings just starting their growth, as well as towering trees.  Higher up, trees are smaller.  Some cling precariously to the side of the mountain, growing out of a small patch of earth between cracks in a rock.

 

Journey up the same path after a spring snowmelt and you may see a different view.  In the lower regions, once towering trees have been felled by the power of raging water, and small saplings have been snapped at their base.  But up higher, small trees are still firmly in place, steadfast in their grip between the rocks.

 

The lesson in this is that the strongest can survive.  Like the trees, you are ever-exposed to the storms and difficulties of daily life.  Will you be overwhelmed by life’s adversities, easily felled by such things, or will you develop an inner strength and resiliency that will enable you to work through each difficulty?

 

Today recognize that challenges in life are inevitable.  Brace yourself for them, hold firm to your position, and never let them dislodge you.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations

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So, what’s new with you?

diary of a fish

 

Cartoonist Leigh Rubin conveys a humorous look at boredom in his comic drawing of a goldfish in a bowl, entitled “Diary of a Fish.”  The diary runs from Sunday through Saturday and conveys the same entries about how the fish spent its day:  It swam.  It ate.  It slept.

 

Now, you may view your existence as one of dull routines, causing you to feel bored and disinterested in life.  When someone asks, “So, what’s new with you?” you may let out a sigh and mumble, “Same old, same old.”  But, your days can be transformed and refashioned to add freshness and richness to your life.  Being spontaneous can open you up to new experiences.  Taking a risk can offer learning and challenge.  Doing something out of the ordinary can provide an opportunity to grow.  Embracing unpredictability can strengthen your ability to flow with life’s challenges.

 

If you feel there is nothing special going on in your life, do something different from what you did yesterday.  Even simple changes can provide enough stimulation to make life more interesting and enjoyable.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations

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Is It Better To Follow Your Head Or Your Heart?

If your head tells you one thing and your heart says another, which is the one you should listen to? When it comes to relationships, both play an important role. Here’s when you should listen to your head or your heart when it comes to love:

 

Follow Your Head

 

·        When you’re thinking of cheating. If you have a wandering eye and are considering acting on it, put your emotions on hold and think about what you’re about to do. Cheating can have serious consequences in your relationship so think long and hard about what you might be risking. Don’t let your attraction or emotions rule your actions.

 

·        When you’re attracted to someone off-limits. Maybe you’re attracted to your best friend’s ex or someone else that you know you shouldn’t pursue. Don’t let your emotions cloud your judgment when it means that you’re risking your friendship or another important relationship. Think about what acting on your attraction would mean for your friendship instead of acting impulsively and following your heart.

 

·        When they treat you badly. Don’t listen to your emotions when you’re in a bad relationship. Your emotional side will make excuses for their bad behavior and get sentimental about their good qualities. Instead, you need to use your head and look at the cold hard facts if they treat you badly, it doesn’t matter how many good times you’ve had together.

 

·        When you’re thinking about getting physical. Leave your emotions (and libido) out of the equation when you’re contemplating taking your relationship to a more physical and intimate level. Think clearly about why you’re doing it and make sure you’re not being pressured. Weigh the consequences of what potential ways your relationship will be affected and definitely use your head to consider health and birth control options.

 

Heart

 

·        When deciding who to be with. Forget what your head is telling you about whether or not someone is your usual type, or if your friends will approve. You can’t help whom you’re attracted to and if there’s someone that you just really want to be with, listen to your heart and go for it. Don’t worry about what your head or anyone else has to say about it.

 

·        When committing. If your heart tells you that you’ve struck relationship gold and you simply just want to be together, listen to your heart when deciding if you want to commit to someone. Don’t start weighing the pros and cons in your head and thinking about all of the reasons why you should keep your options open. If you’re really into someone and they feel the same, follow your heart and commit to them.

 

·        When it comes to long distance. There are a million reasons not to try a long distance relationship and it’s easy to talk yourself out of it. But sometimes it’s just the right person and you want to be together and make it work, no matter the distance. Listen to your heart to determine if they’re the one and you are willing to stay together even with a bit of distance between you.

 

·        When saying “I Love You”. Don’t let your head rule this one because it will surely talk you out of it. Expressing your love to someone is purely emotional. If you think about it too much you’ll likely be scared off by the risks. Take the leap and follow your heart if you want to reap the rewards of telling your partner that you love them.

 

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The outcome of purposeful living

purposeful living

 

Something to think about…

 

Think about all of the components that go into creating a glowing campfire.  There is the pit that must be dug in order to contain the fire.  There are the sticks of varying sizes that must be gathered together and organized in the pit.  And then there is the spark from a match that is needed to ignite the sticks.  From this creation of a campfire are many by-products: something that cooks food, something that warms the body, something that produces an exquisite aroma, and something that provides light in the darkness.

 

Happiness an be seen in much the same way.  It is a by-product of all of the positive and enjoyable things you gather together each day.  It is the effort you exert into seeking the treasures of life.  And it is the spark you add to your day-to-day existence.

 

Happiness is an outcome of the effort you put into life.  It exists in the harmonious relationships you create, in the sense of purpose that awakens you in the morning, and in the feeling of connection to all of life.

 

Remember that happiness is not something to strive for; rather, it is something you create.  It is the outcome of purposeful living.

 

Source (modified):  Morning Light | Amy E. Dean | Hazelden Meditations

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A little spark of kindness

A little spark of kindness can put a colossal burst of sunshine into someone’s day.

~ Author Unknown

 

a little spark of kindness

 

 

Something to think about…

 

“One receives only that which is given.  The game of life is a game of boomerangs.  Our thoughts, deeds, and words, return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy.”

~ Florence Scovel Shin

 

Each of us can attest to the truth of this passage.  During the difficult times, however, it is not uppermost in our minds that “what goes around, comes around.”  It feels all too easy to be justifiably resentful or to gossip or to ignore another’s presence.  And the repercussions are seldom immediate.  They will come, though.

 

Goodness is likewise repaid.  Giving love, attention, and respect to the individuals who share our lives and to the people who cross our paths by chance will smooth our own passage day by day.  The effects of our goodness will often be felt quickly.  A smile elicits a smile.  Kind thoughts bless us as well as the receiver.  Life events do come full circle.

 

With a bit of effort, I can smile at someone today, even though I’m frowning inside.  Both will be better for it.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Grandmother says “Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee, which are you?”

carrots eggs or coffee

 

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

 

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

 

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”

 

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

 

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

 

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

 

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. “What’s the point, grandmother?”

 

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently.

 

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

 

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

 

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter.

 

“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

 

Think of this: Which am I?

 

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

 

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

 

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

 

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

 

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

 

~ Author Unknown

 

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Today flows from yesterday

The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.

~ Steve Mariboli

 

 

yesterday and today

 

Something to think about…

 

Today flows from yesterday, the day before, the day before that.  Tomorrow repeats the pattern.  What we are given on any one day will have its beginning in the past and its finale in the future.  No incident is isolated entirely; no issue is self-contained.

 

Maturity is being able to let go of outgrown attitudes, stifling opinions, no matter how good and right they were at one time.  Our egos often get too attached to some of our opinions, and new ideas can’t filter in.  Some will try to get our attention today.  We are ready for new growth.  The choice not to hamper it is ours to make.

 

The opinions we held certain yesterday may not be adequate to the problems of today.  They need not be.  They served us well.  They are not for naught.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Unique gifts and talents

The unique gifts and talents each of us contribute to the world add dimension and color to the rich tapestry we call life.

~ Janet S. Dickens

 

gifts and talents

 

All of us have unique talents and gifts.  Believing this fully is difficult at times; for some of us, most of the time.  But it is true.  What each of us can contribute to the world is unlike every other contribution.  Each talent is slightly different from every other talent.  And they are all needed.  We are all needed.

 

Creativity — any kind — writing, photography, cooking, child care, weaving, managing, woodworking — nourishes the self that feels isolated and worthless.  And as the self is nourished, it grows; it recovers.

 

Recovery means changing our lifestyle.  It means reaching out to others and being there for one another.  It means rejoining the human race by giving of ourselves.  Our talents are the gifts the human race awaits — needs, in fact.  Do we know our talents?

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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To understand and be understood

The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.

~ Ralph G. Nichols

 

 

to understand and be understood

 

Something to think about…

 

Our experiences educate us to help show each other the way.  Others’ experiences, likewise, will help still others.  We need to share our histories.  There is no greater honor we can give one another than rapt attention.  We each want to be heard, to be special, to be acknowledged.  And recognition may well be the balm that will heal someone’s hurt today.

 

A new day faces us, a day filled with opportunities to really listen to someone who needs to be heard.  And the surprise is that we will hear a message just right for us, where we are now.  A message that may well point us in a new, better direction.  Guidance is always at hand, if only we listen for it.  But when we are trapped in our own narrow world of problems and confusion, we scramble whatever messages are trying to reach us.  And we miss the many opportunities to make another person feel special and necessary to our lives.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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15 Things to Give Up

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The thief of time

Never do tomorrow what you can do today. Procrastination is the thief of time.

~ Charles Dickens

 

thief of time

 

Something to think about…

 

Procrastination is habitual.  It’s perhaps a habit we’ve struggled with over the years, and not one that can be willed away.  It eats at us, no doubt.  How many times have we gone to bed at night depressed, discouraged, angry with ourselves for not finishing a job we promised ourselves, or someone else, we’d do?  Sometimes it feels hopeless.  The tasks awaiting our attention pile up, seem impossible to complete.  But there is hope.

 

We have only this day to concern ourselves with.  We can break the spell of procrastination, lethargy, immobility, if we choose.  We can pick a task that needs attention, any task, preferably a small one for today.  Maybe it’s writing a letter, or fixing a hem, or making an appointment to see a doctor.  Deciding to do something, and then doing it, breaks through the barriers that have caged us.  Immediately, we will sense the surge of freedom.  In this moment, we can always act.  and any act will free us.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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8 Ways to Declutter Your Mind

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The art of listening

The reality of the other person lies not in what he reveals to you, but what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says, but rather to what he does not say.

~ Khalil Gibran

 

reality of another person

 

Something to think about…

 

When we don’t listen fully to each other, when we don’t revere the spirit within others that’s trying to talk to us, we destroy the connection that wants to be made between our spirits.  Our inner selves have messages to give and messages to receive for the good of all.  Our ego selves often keep us from hearing the very words that would unravel a problem in our lives.

 

How hard it is, how often, to be still and to fully listen to the words, rather than the person.  How much more familiar it is to filter the message with our own ongoing inner dialogue — our own ongoing continual assessment of another’s personhood at the very time our higher power is trying to reach us through them.

 

There really are no wasted words.  Messages are everywhere.  We can learn to listen.

 

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Moments you can’t put into words

Live for the moments you can’t put into words.

~ Author Unknown

 

moments you can't put into words

 

Something to think about…

 

Being selective in choosing activities, in choosing friends, in choosing material possessions fosters unexpected appreciation.  Too much of any one thing negates whatever specialness might have been realized.  If we surround ourselves with acquaintances, we never fully share in knowing a few people well.  If we surround ourselves with “toys,” we never learn how we really want to spend our time.

 

When we don’t take life slowly, piece by piece (one shell at a time), we avoid the greatest discovery of all, the person within.  When our attention to persons, places, things is deliberate and steady, the beauty within the object of our focus shines forth, and we, too, are made more beautiful in the process.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Life’s realities

Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

~ Marc Chernoff

 

a moment that is yet to come

 

Something to think about…

 

Being dissatisfied — discontented with the experiences life gives us — forever hampers our growth.  Reality is not our bane but our gift.  The particular reality perceived by any one of us is of special significance because in that reality are our lessons — the very lessons that will awaken us to the awareness that what life offers is just rich and rewarding.

 

It’s our interpretation of life’s realities that is at fault.  But as we grow spiritually, the clouds will disappear.  We’ll come to understand the interplay betweeen our realities.  And we’ll willingly move ahead, fulfilling our part in life’s bigger picture.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Ben Franklin effect

The Ben Franklin effect is a psychological finding: A person who has done someone a favor is more likely to do that person another favor than they would be if they had received a favor from that person. Similarly, one who harms another is more willing to harm them again than the victim is to retaliate.

 

Ben Franklin effect – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

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How to Develop Your Personality

1. Work on becoming an exceptional listener. There’s nothing more attractive, and appealing, than someone who listens intently to you.

 

2. Keep reading, and seek to develop a wide range of interests. That makes it easier to talk to you, and to exchange ideas with you. You also come across as being a more interesting, balanced, and knowledgeable individual.

 

3. Work on developing your conversation skills.  This is partly tied in with number 2. It’s about being able to make small talk and to share interesting bits of information with others. If you are shy, or you find this difficult, try to watch and learn from others who are strong in this area. Then, try copying and implementing some of the basic skills they use.

 

4. Don’t be afraid to have your own opinions. It’s good to know what you think about things as this provides a starting point for making conversation. (But be careful not to come across as rude, dominating, or to push your thoughts and views on other people!)

 

5. Get out and meet new people. This also helps develop our interpersonal skills as it forces us to interact with those who’re different from us. Doing that, will broaden and expand your horizons and make it easier to mix with lots of people.

 

6. Appreciate, enjoy and express your true self. You are special and unique – so discover who you are – and don’t try to copy, and be like, someone else.

 

7. Work on developing a positive and optimistic approach to life. There’s nothing worse than being with someone who is critical, complaining, miserable and pessimistic.  In contrast, a positive person lifts the mood of everyone. So smile, affirm others, and look for what is good.

 

8. Also, maintain a sense of humour, laugh often, and have fun. We all want someone who can brighten our way, and distract us from the hassles and problems of the day.

 

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7 Interesting Social Skills

1. Whenever someone is angry and confrontational, stand next to them instead of in front of them. You won’t appear as so much of a threat, and they eventually calm down.

 

2. Open with “I need your help.” People don’t like the guilt of not helping someone out. When asking for a favor from someone, begin your request by saying “I need your help.” It greatly increases your chances of getting that favor done.

 

3. Rephrase what the other person says and repeat it back to them. This makes them think you’re listening and really interested in what they’re saying. It makes them feel validated. Obviously, you don’t want to overdo this.

 

4. If you want someone to agree with you, nod while you talk.This gets the other person to nod too, and they begin to subconsciously think they agree with you.

 

5. If someone doesn’t like you, ask to borrow a pencil. It is a small enough favor that they won’t say no, and it gets them to like you more. Check out the Benjamin Franklin effect for more explanation.

 

6. Fold your arms to determine interest. If someone is observing you, they will likely mimic you. Fold your arms, and see if they do it, too.

 

7. Repeat a person’s name many times during a conversation. It helps you remember it, and makes them like you more.

 

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Happiness is a form of courage

Happiness is a form of courage.

~ George Holbrook Jackson

 

happiness is a form of courage

 

Something to think about…

 

We are as happy as we make up our minds to be, so goes the saying.  But happiness is the result of right actions.  We prepare for it daily.  We chart our course.  Many of us have to first determine where we want to go before we can decide on the chart.  We have perhaps passively floated along for years.  But now the time is right to navigate, to move toward a goal.

 

We may have fears about moving ahead.  We can be courageous, however.  Strength is at hand, always, if we but ask for it.  We can make a small beginning today.  And every day, we can do at least one thing we need to do to bring us closer to our goal.  Acomplishment, however small, nurtures good feelilngs.  Happiness is the by-product.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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The serenity prayer…with a twist

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it’s me.

~ Author Unknown

 

the wisdom to know it's me

 

Something to think about…

 

The more we are in concert with God, the greater will be our pleasures in life.  Recognizing our partnership with our higher power makes every decision easier, facilitates the completion of every task, and removes all uncertainty about our value to this world, particularly to those persons around us.

 

Knowledge that we are never alone, that in every circumstance our best interests are being cared for, softens whatever blow we encounter.  The blows teach us; they are the lessons the inner self has requested, and let us never forget we have a ready tutor to see us through every assignment.

 

The more we rely on God to see us through the mundane activities as well as the troubling experiences, the greater will be our certainty that all is well, our lives are on course, and a plan is unfolding little by little that has our best interests at its center.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Time and pressure

God changes caterpillars into butterflies, sand into pearls, and coal into diamonds using time and pressure. He’s working on you, too.

~ Rick Warren

 

time and pressure

 

Something to think about…

 

Change is not easy, but it’s absolutely unavoidable.  Doors will close.  Barriers will surface.  Frustrations will mount.  Nothing stays the same forever, and it’s such folly to wish otherwise.  Growth accompanies positive change; determining to risk the outcome resuting from a changed behavior or attitude will enhance our self-perceptions.  We will have moved forward; in every instance, our lives will be influenced by making a change that only each of us can make.

 

We have all dreaded the changes we knew we had to make.  Perhaps even now we fear some impending changes.  Where might they take us?  It’s difficult accepting that the outcome is not ours to control.  Only the effort is ours.  The solace is that positive changes, which we know are right for us and other people in our lives, are never going to take us astray.  In fact, they are necessary for the smooth path just beyond this stumbling block.

 

When we are troubled by circumstances in our lives, a change is called for, a change that we must initiate.  When we reflect on our recent as well as distant past, we will remember that the changes we most dreaded again and again have positively influenced our lives in untold ways.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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10 Ways To Be Supportive

Relationships aren’t all fun and games. Life happens and one of you will be bound to lose a loved one, have a sick family member, etc. Being a good partner means standing by through good times and bad. The good times are easy to handle. Here are some tips on how to be supportive through tough times:

 

Listen. Let them know right away that you’re there for them if and when they want to talk. When that time comes, free yourself from distractions and really let them vent by listening and giving them your full attention.

 

Acknowledge the situation. People often feel awkward or they don’t know what to say in times of crisis. Don’t pretend that nothing happened. Acknowledge the situation, say that you’re sorry for what they’re going through, or even admit that you don’t quite know what to say. Any of these are better than saying nothing.

 

Offer distraction. When they’re ready you can be there to take them out for pizza, go to a movie or anything else to get their mind off of things.

 

Offer to help. Can you help make any arrangements? Do any errands? Bring over takeout? Show that you care by offering to lighten their load.

 

Help them remember the positives. When they get down about a tough situation you can be there to talk with them to remember good memories or find a silver lining.

 

Help with the little things. Without asking, take charge and pick up notes from classes they’ve missed, or anything else that will be helpful. Chances are they’ll forget all about those little details if they’re distracted by a crisis and they’ll be grateful that you’re looking out for them.

 

Treat them. Now is the time to go the extra mile to make them feel special and loved. Buy their favorite flower or bring them their favorite dessert, just because.

 

Give them space. If they need a bit of breathing room, give it to them and don’t take it personally. 

 

Treat them normally. They’ll need your support but the last thing they want is your pity or you treating them like a victim. Try to treat them the same way you always do.

 

Don’t make it about you. Tell them that you can only imagine what they’re going through. Or if you can relate, say so. But leave it at that. Don’t launch into stories about the time you experienced the same thing. This isn’t about you.

 

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A quiet mind

Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.

~ Hans Margolius

 

Purple Sunshine

 

Something to think about…

 

Perhaps it’s the human condition never to be satisfied and yet always to think, “If only…”  However, the more we look within for wholeness, the greater will be our acceptance of all things, at all times.

 

So frequently we hear that happiness is within.  But what does that mean when we may have just lost the job that supported us and our children?  Or when the car won’t start and funds are low?  Or when we are feeling really scared and don’t know whom to talk to or where to go?  “Happiness is within” is such a grand platitude at those times.

 

Nevertheless, our security in any situation is within, if we but know how to tap it.  It is within because that is where the strength we are blessed with resides, the strength given us from the power greater than ourselves.  “Going within” first takes a decision.  Next, it takes stillness, and then, patience.  But peace will come.

 

We will quit wanting when we have learned how to turn to our inner strength.  We will find serenity rather than suffering.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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The struggle you’re in today

The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.

~ Robert Tew

 

the struggle you're in today

 

Something to think about…

 

To be alive means to experience difficulties, conflicts, challenges from many different directions.  What we do with adverse conditions both determines and is determined by who we are.  Resistance, most of us have learned, heightens the adversity.  Acceptance of the condition, trusting all the while the lesson it offers us is for our benefit, ensures that we’ll come out on top.

 

Difficulties are opportunities for advancement, for increased self-awareness, for self-fufillment.  So often we hear and remind one another that we grow through pain.  We can face any situation knowing we have the strength of our faith to shore us up.  Strangely, we need challenges in order to grow; without growth we wither.  Happiness is the bounty for facing the momentarily unhappy conditions.

 

Source (modified):  Each Day a New Beginning | Hazelden Meditations

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Living a Life that is Meaningful

1. First, figure out what matters most to you.

 

2. Have the courage to live that life, no matter how hard it is, and no matter how much others mock or criticise you because of it.

 

3. Don’t look to others for affirmation and approval. You need to be true to yourself, and not to others.

 

4. Discover what you’re really passionate about. What makes you lose all sense of time, and leaves you feeling relaxed and fulfilled?

 

5. Be willing to experiment with other interests, too. We’re usually interested in lots of different things, and that brings balance to our personality.

 

6. Respect and listen to that quiet inner voice. That will redirect you if you start to veer off course.

 

7. Pursue excellence in everything you do. Work hard, acquire knowledge, and develop your skills.

 

8. Invest your knowledge and abilities in making a real difference in the lives of other people.

 

9. Make friends with failure – it’s a crucial part of growth. It means that you are trying, and not wasting your life.

 

10. Build strong and lasting relationships. Little else will matter if you end up all alone.

 

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